For anyone who has ever been blessed to welcome a fur baby into their family fold, they know the absolute joy that comes from having them in our life, but they also understand the incredible heartache that comes from having to say goodbye.
About 13 years ago, after years of riding, showing and working with horses in various capacities, my daughter K realized a little girl dream she had had for many, many years.
The dream of one day owning her own horse.
Charlie was about 9 years old when he came to my daughter, and had not had the best life, as is sadly an all too common story, for this beautiful and often misunderstood animal.
Having been rather neglected in his formative years, he was not necessarily a big fan of most humans. He feared they didn’t have his best interests at heart, thus not always behaving as was expected from him.
This behaviour never phased my daughter. Instead, she affectionately gave him the nickname Sir Charles, a nod to his rather needy & quirky personality. She loved him for exactly who he was, warts and all.
K spent years developing a deep bond with this beautiful being, gifting him her never-ending patience, her trust in his ability and most importantly, loving him completely, in spite of his antics.
In return, he gifted her his trust and complete faith in knowing she would take care of him. The bond they shared between them was deep and beautiful.
Sadly & unexpectedly this past week, my daughter had to make the gut wrenching decision to say goodbye to her beloved Charles.
For those who have had to make this kind of decision, you know the heartbreak of which I speak.
There is an indescribable kind of unconditional love that comes from sharing our lives with our fur babies. We love them so deeply and the grief we feel when we lose them is profound.
I find myself at a complete loss as to how to find the words to comfort my daughter in losing her beloved boy.
And so I write.
In my attempt to find some words of comfort, I leave you with what I think Charlie himself would want you to know.
I believe, first and foremost, Charlie would want to share with you how incredibly grateful he was to have found you. You gifted him a safe place to exist, accepting him for all that he was and all that he wasn’t, providing him with the opportunity to learn to trust his human.
I think he would apologize for all the times he was less than cooperative in his actions and his shenanigans, as you so patiently kept trying to teach him that it would all be okay. No matter how many times he succumbed to what he deemed to be fearful, you just got back on and gave him the reassurance he needed to continue.
I am certain he would thank you for the never ending supply of yummy treats and countless brushings, always making him feel so completely loved. Quiet time spent together in both the best moments and most challenging moments of life together, needing no words spoken to understand the depth of love felt for one another.
I have no doubt he was forever indebted to you for the copious amount of shoes he lost or threw and the warm blankets he tore or destroyed, always making his comfort a priority.
He would want you to know that you are the most patient and incredible human, always having faith in him to overcome his fears, no matter how ridiculous they may have seemed.
Most of all, I think Charlie would tell you how eternally grateful he was for the life you gifted him. Without your unconditional love and care for him, his life may have looked very different. Because of you, he had the opportunity to grow and develop into such a beautiful and happy being.
Even on his last day, you remained steadfast in your love for him, making the most difficult decision a human ever has to make for their fur baby. Setting aside the feeling of having your heart ripped out of your chest, you made the decision that was best for him.
I promise you that the heaviness you feel in these early days, will feel a little less burdensome as the days and weeks pass. In time that heaviness is replaced by the knowing of the incredible bond you shared and the beautiful memories of the time you spent together.
Rest In Peace Sir Charles. Run freely wherever your spirit takes you and know that you were deeply loved and will forever be held in the heart of your beautiful kindred spirit, K.
Beautiful, Lynn. My heart goes out to K I hope she understands that the gift she gave Sir Charles with last with him for eternity. Xo
Thanks Karen. Appreciate the love💕
My Heart is breaking for this loss. Charlie and K were was so lucky to have found each other. She was his saviour, advocate, teacher and friend. He in turn gave her such joy, concern and trust as he grew to know that she was always making decisions for his best interest, right down to this last one. As always Lynn, reading your words are akin to listening to music. They flow together with all the right notes! Sending my love to K and all the family.
Thanks so much my dear friend.💕
Oh boy, and I just put makeup on before reading this. I’m in tears. You said beautiful words to your daughter. You also got me to feel their bond and the deep heartache of letting go. My heart goes out to your daughter K.
I don’t know if she’d be into anything like this, but when I lost my first fur baby, I was a mess. I found a petloss board where I was able to express my emotions and get support. It’s simply petloss.com for the main page. The board is petlossmessagboard.com.
Warm. comforting hugs to K.
Thank you so much for your kind words Lori. She tends to be someone who just needs quiet to process. The hardest part as a Mom is giving her the space the to do that. 💕
I understand about her needing space. Thought I’d offer something, as I don’t even know her and wish I could help. So, I can understand how difficult it must be for you to want so desperately to ease your daughter’s pain and know you can’t. Warmest wishes to you both.
So kind of you Lori.💕
so very special!
Thank you Becky💕
The most sacred duty of a fur baby parent is setting them free. A beautiful post, Lynn.
Thank you John💕
So beautifully written and a wonderful heartfelt tribute to K’s precious Charles.
Thanks so much Heather💕
Lynn this is beautiful and so heartfelt, K and Charles would be so proud of the wonderful words you shared about their love.
Thanks my friend.💕
Beautifully written Lynn. May time and all of K’s wonderful memories with Sir Charlie, help to heal her broken heart. Please pass along my warm thoughts to K. xo
I will Jane. Thank you💕
She sounds a great girl, and what a lovely mum you are. RIP, Charlie 💗💗
So beautiful! Praying for your daughter on this loss. We just lost our beloved dog of 16 years. It is such a hard thing. Time does heal and remembering all the joy is so important.
Thank you so much Linda. I am so sorry for your loss. Our fur babies become such an integral part of our families but in time, we learn to reflect on all of that joy you mention!💕
That was simply beautiful, Lynn! You captured the bond between horse and person perfectly. I’m so sorry for you daughter for her loss, and for you because it’s so very hard to watch your daughter grieve. The best part of welcoming an animal into our heart is the love that is shared. The worst part is saying goodby. Your daughter showed great courage in making the decision that was best for her beloved horse, no matter how much it broke her own heart. That’s true love.
Ann, thank you so much for your very kind words of encouragement and love. You are so right. It is absolutely the hardest part of loving our fur babies, knowing when we need to make the right decision for them, no matter how much it hurts. So appreciate your visit💕
How beautiful & eloquent Lynn! Definitely the darker side of growing up, sadly too many heartbreaks in our aging.
My sympathies to Kathryn, my sister too has gone through many heartaches in her many fur baby years.
Looking forward to seeing you on the weekend.
Hugs & HUGS to K
What a lovely and heartfelt tribute to the bond that was forged between your daughter and her Sir Charles…made me quite weepy. My horse came into my life late and we’ve been together now for 10 wonderful years – I hope that when the time comes I can be as brave as your daughter and give him release as my last act of love ❤️
Thank you so much. It is a very special bond between and horse and owner as you well know. Thanks for reading💕
A bittersweet post. I don’t know that anyone ever gets over losing a loyal friend, whether it be human or animal, but maybe eventually you get used to it. Sir Charles will live on in your heart. So sorry for your loss.
Very true Ally. I too, believe we hold our loved ones, human or animal, deep in our hearts after they are no longer with us. Although we get used to them no longer physically being with us, we never stop missing their presence in our lives. Thanks for the visit my friend💕
Such a sweet post! My heart breaks for your daughter. I have had to make that decision so many times and it never gets easier.
Thank you Linda. It is such a difficult decision to make but sadly it goes with have fur babies in our lives.💕